Hello, I am very new at this I care for my 4th stage, 86 year old mother. I get 1/2 day to call my own but not really as I have shopping to do. I stay up till 2-3 AM just to have time to call my own.

As i sit here with my husband of 39 years, who is in stage 6 and he is talking to someone who is only in his mind, i can only think how much he would hate this if he knew how he was behaving and Im sure your mother would not like it if she knew how much work she is causing you. All you can do is to love them and take care of them. My husband is 64 and I'm 58 and it hard for me but it has to be harder for him. You are in my prayers
doris

Seli;

You sound exhausted! Have you seen a doctor recently? Important that you take care of yourself.

Are your sisters nearby...sounds like a family conference ASAP. Time for them to either help with Mom or help pay for you to get help.

We are all here for you and understand your feelings.

Seli,
Just because your not working doesn't mean you should be the ONLY caregiver! Set up a family conference immediately! I know you are doing a great job being a caregiver but all caregivers need some help! Your family doesn't understand that the care you give in 24/7!!!
Take care of yourself
Please keep us posted!

Peace and Hope,

You are all so GREAT! I will try again for the "Family Meeting", it has failed in the past, it is so easy for them to feel sorry for me over the phone, but when I reach out they back away.

It is nice to be heard and though of, I am greatful

Mom is napping behind me as I write this.

ThanX again I will keep you posted.

Hugs to you and yours...

Dear Seli,
Chisel out some time for yourself if you have to lock a door. You have to keep up your strength. Try a little exercise and when she naps, you get in a nap. Put a timer on if you are worried. I too had an exhaustive schedule.....I had to lock my mother-in-law in her room and take a few minutes just to gather my thoughts. I'll be praying for you as well. You are doing a great job! It's a thankless job but have a lots of people to cheer you on, including me!

Bless your heart my Dad has been going through this with Mom for months even though we have been able to help in small segments no one person can do this 2/7 without a break, they just cannot.