my gm is 83 yrs old and is in denial she has alzheimers. she will not go to a dr. but desperetly needs to. she doesn't bathe or change her clothes for weeks. she is getting very abusive verbally and becoming volitile. anyone else having similar problems.

Newmomneedshelp,

Hello and Welcome to the AD Message Boards. I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother but I'm glad you've found us.

Sounds like your grandmother really need your help! People with AD/dementia don't always recognize their problems.

You have to get her to the doctors Asap! If she won't go, call 911 and have either the police or an ambulance take her to the local ER for evaluation. She is not safe to be left alone.

If you need immediate assistance, please call our 24/7 AD Helpline @ 800-272-3900.

Please, come back and let us know what happens.

You may want to post in the "Caregivers Forum" as that site get a lot more attention!

Good Luck.

i did call an ambulance a few days ago because i believe she had a small heart attack. she refused to go and signed papers to not go. now what???!!! i'm desperate.

Dear Newmomneedshelp:
Lisa gave you good advice. Please re-read her post. Call 911 and tell the operator that your grandmother has dementia and needs evaluation. Tell them what is going on. Is there anyone there who can help you?

Iris L.

I'm going thru the exact same thing with my mother-in-law. She's so contankerous and always was a stubborn woman that this disease is just amplyfying her personality in such a negative way. Love her to pieces, but we have to help her get thru this. Hang in there, try to get other family to help. Some will probably be in denial that she's even sick, but you have to look into her best interest. I just started writing on this forum a few weeks ago and it has been SOOOOOOO very helpful. The people has such great responses to my questions and I get emails alerting me when a response shows up. Do as the other msgs say -- call 911, say she's in danger of hurting herself (gas on stove, falls down...you need to get social services in to do an assessment).