Okay, so, neither my brothers (who live within 30 mins) came to say goodbye to their dad. They had a full five days, but they couldn't "deal with it."

The day my dad died, one of my brothers, when he heard, went out and bought 2 new cars. He's also wanting "his inheritance."

I'm left with the mounds and mounds of paperwork. I have to put dad's house up for sale, but the car brother "wants to buy it" but I'm listing it. I'm the trustee. Tough.

I'm sad for dad, because neither son said goodbye and only saw him last December. Never came to see him even though he was on Hospice all that time.

Dad left them with a good sum of money, but they couldn't say goodbye to him, nor be their for me. Nor say a word about him at his service. One brother was late! Oh the pain...

My sister-in-law talked about the inheritance at the luncheon after dad's service and wanted to know how everyone was spending it!

I have been unable to function...subject to my own UTI I can't get rid of... sick of heart. Hate all this paperwork to benefit those who did not really deserve it.

I am so sorry for your loss! Is there anyone that you can turn to for comfort? Please post here often to receive some comfort. May your memories of your dad override the ones you have of present events. Focus on the positive during this time, even as you handle the paperwork. Remember a joyful moment and then do one more thing. Step at a time...Grief is hard on you so pamper yourself in some manner. Massage, reading, short trip if able,or movie. Please accept my sincere sympathy.
Sheryl

Wow. It is hard enough dealing with the loss of your loved one without your family being idiots. I am so sorry for all you are dealing with.

In this economy, you actually might consider letting your brother buy the house - after it is appraised and you know the price for which it should be listed, of course. No price breaks here since he obviously couldn't even say goodbye to his father. It might keep the peace in the family by offering it to him, but more importantly, it might sell a lot quicker. Of course, if houses are selling in your area, then go for it. I just know two people who had their houses on the market for a year before they finally sold.

Take care of you and try to not dwell on the brothers as you adjust to life without your LO. One day at a time.....

Iam sorry about your dad's death. I know how hard it is for you to go through such a time and have inconsiderate siblings. Know that you took care of dad and did everything possible for him. It will be your siblings who will have to answer later.
My late father use to say that death brings out all the vultures. They will soon learn that there are more important things than money. I hope they know the old saying that "Money does not buy happiness".
I hope your medical condition improves.