Today at 2:15 PM, my mother took her last breath and thankfully my daughter and I were with her. I was with her Sunday morning for about 3 hours, and she was very agitated. She said: "I want to go home." "Help me." "I feel terrible." and "I can't stand this anymore." She screamed several times, and I got someone to give her some Tylenol which usually helped her. I spoke with her nurse who said she was not eating, and I asked who I could talk to about hospice. Hospice care was going to be called in this week. Today, her main nurse at the NH called me and said I had better come quickly that my mother was barely breathing and turning colors. My daughter and I got there, and she continued to breath for about 5 minutes while we cried and talked to her and held her hand. I asked the nurse who pronounced her if it was her heart, her lungs, her brain--what had gone wrong so suddenly. She said they had no way to know. She said she saw no signs that she was in pain or struggling in any way.
I thought it would be easier, because she has suffered so much. I just wanted to let those who have helped me on this message board to know my beautiful, funny, nutty mother is gone. There will never be another like her!
Julia: My deepest sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your beloved mother. If it is any consolation, my mom went in pretty much the same way, although she had been under Hospice care. But it seemed like the end was just so fast. I think their poor bodies get so weak because they can no longer eat and, in the case of my mom, she was not taking any liquids either as she did not know what to do with the liquid once it got in her mouth. It is such a sad disease as the person becomes more or less an empty shell.
May God be with you and give you strength to face the difficult days ahead.
Hugs, Kathyl
Posts: 149 | Location?: Ohio | Registered: February 27, 2005
Dear Julia Karen, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know your Mom was a terrific lady. Take heart. Her struggle is over. She has found peace at last. I hope you and you daughter can do the same.
So sorry to hear of your mom's passing. It is so hard even after the greiving over the alz. has been ongoing.My sympathies to you and your daughter and your family.
So sorry about your loss. Did you mom have AD? I see my mom slowing down and she is not yet in a NH. I'm thinking of you and hope you find some comfort in knowing that their suffering, whatever it might have been, has ceased. Knowing that most certainly helped me when my father died...in fact it was probably the main thing that helped me, although he died of congestive heart failure. There's not much more I can say at this time except to say I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. Feel free to write if you want any healing ideas. I envy you that you had your daughter with you. My sister wants no part of me...... Suzanne Bela
I am so sorry. My mother passed in March 2006 and my father is in last stage AD. The pain can be overwhelming at times. I pray that you find peace and your heart heals. Tiara
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