I just recently found out that my X-husband has Early-onset Alzheimers. He is 47. I tried to tell him and his family that he had a problem but no one would listen. Least of all him.

We have 4 grown daughter and they are now his support system. As I said he is my "X" my concern are for our daughters. How the heck do I support and comfort them in the decline of their fathers health?

There is an upcomming surgery for a removal of part of his intestine because of a 3 x 4 inch mass. The doctor is telling him there is a very large likly hood that this is cancer.

I am so torn. I can't get involved with "him" but I feel so deeply for the girls that I just need to know......How can I help them?

I am the grand daughter of a victim. My Granny is my best friend, and my idol. She was my light in a bad child hood. Her and my grandfather were the type of people who were care free, they lived for today. Never worried about money, or argued about anything. They had fun with life, and lived for love. They were my idols. I used to tell her that when she died I wanted to die because I didn't want to live with out her. I never thought this would take my grandmother…never.
My Granny was diagnosed three years ago; she has gone down hill fast. It’s extremely heartbreaking. After a while you just kinda go numb and deal with it. I believe this is a gift from GOD, it’s called Mercy. The Alzheimer’s Association is a wonderful way to start the support. Any way that they can get involved and give back is a great spiritual lifter. Maybe they could raise $ for the foundation, or have a party to benefit the Association. I am actually having one this summer, all benefits will go toward fighting the disease.
Our lives are our gift from God, you never know which way it will curve, but there is a reason for it. What you do with your life and that curve is your gift to God. Help them to give back, and to push the hurt out, by shedding light on the future of this horrific disease. You have to understand that there will not be much you can say, just lots of hugs, and lots of prayers.

just hold them when the tears come.. and they will come.. day or night.. be that life line that they can call when it is just too unberable.. your love will help them know what to do as the time passes..
forgive me but just a thought.. to die from a quick cancer would be so much better than the LONG GOOD BY..