Anyone heard from Zoey or how her and her Mom are doing since she decided to take her mom home?

I thought I read on another thread that ZOEY has left our group.

I'm sure Zoey is doing quite well. Put your minds at ease. --Jim

With all of the crises Zoey faced, unless we know what is going on, it is natural to be concerned. I, too, wonder how they are all doing.

After all that we all read, how can you be sure, Jim?

maebee..

I just realized by your new post signature..you were a caregiver for your MIL..

I did not realize that..

I must have misunderstood..

I am glad you put that in your signature..as now I know..

Zoey..I feel..

like all of us.

..who are..
..will be..
..or..have been caregivers..

will find her way.. walking down the path..holding her mothers hand..and do what is best for her mother..I have no doubt..she is there for her..Love Rosie

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Originally posted by just exhibit love:
maebee..

I just realized by your new post signature..you were a caregiver for your MIL..

I did not realize that..

I must have misunderstood..

I am glad you put that in your signature..as now I know..

"rosie", I have been here for over 4 years; you have been here for over 3. You know my story, as far as this forum goes. Why did you post this?


A member, in another thread, suggested we include our status in our signatures. I think it is a great idea.

ZOEY,
I SAW YOU WERE BACK TODAY. I HOPE THINGS ARE GOING BETTER FOR ALL OF YOU.

YES DEAREST FRIENDS....I TOOK SOME TIME OFF WHEN MOM WAS OUT OF THE HOSPITAL...I WAITED ABOUT A WEEK, SO SHE WOULDN'T REMEMBER....AND PUT HER IN RESPITE CARE AT THE SAME PLACE SHE GOES TO DAYCARE.....WOW!!!! SHE WAS JUST FINE, THE LADY SHE ROOMED WITH SAID NOTHING BUT SHE SAID THAT WAS OK....ANYWAY....DURING THAT RESPITE STAY I WENT TO SEE DAD AND WAS THERE FOR FATHERS DAY, LEFT THE NEXT DAY, CHLOE AND I HAD OUR ADVENTURE, SHE DID WELL TRAVELING...BUT DAD HAS BIG PROBLEMS....HIS PLACE IS A MESS, DOES DISHES BY PUTTING CHLOROX IN THE WATER AND THEY SET FOR DAYS...YUCK, AND LEFTOVER COFFEE IS USED THE NEXT DAY.... HE DOESN'T EAT PROPERLY....AND WHEN I GIVE ADVICE ABOUT HIS DIET....FRUIT, FIBER, ETC...HE YELLS AT ME.....HE MAY HAVE A BIT OF DEMENTIA.....IT WAS A BIT INTENSE IN OHIO...BUT HELPED HIM STRAIGHTEN OUT THINGS ABOUT ADVANCE DIRECTIVE AND LIVING WILL....BURIAL, ETC....YA KNOW FUN STUFF.....LOL.....THE TIME WENT SO QUICK, BUT I HAD TO GET BACK HOME.....JUST LIKE DOROTHY AND TOTO....BUT WHAT WAS REALLY WEIRD WAS WE AGREED THAT HE FOLLOW ME BACK HERE, HE WOULD STAY AT THE HOLIDAY INN....HE ZOOMS OFF, 0-60 IN 10 SECONDS.....I COULDN'T CATCH UP...I KEPT THINKING I WOULD SEE HIM EACH MILE I WENT...ALONG THE SIDE WAITING FOR ME....SO I KEPT GOING.....THAT NIGHT I CALLED HE ANSWERED.....AND WAS PRETTY VOCAL WITH ME, I JUST LET IT GO.....YOU KNOW HOW GOOD WE ARE AT DOING THAT.....SO THAT WAS THAT, I TOLD HIM HE IS WELCOME HERE ANYTIME....ABOUT MOM, ALL THAT TIME I WORRIED ABOUT LEAVING MOM SOMEWHERE, SHE WAS JUST FINE....NOW MAYBE WE CAN EVEN TAKE A VAC, WHO KNOWS !! THX FOR THINKING OF ME.....ZOEY M

ZOEY---IT SOUNDS AS IF CHLOE PROVIDED SMILES AND COMPANIONSHIP DURING FATHER'S DAY TRIP. I'M GLAD THAT YOU FINALLY MANAGED TO VISIT HIM AND THRILLED THAT YOUR MOTHER DID WELL DURING RESPITE CARE.

CARING FOR SOMEONE WITH A/D IS NEVER SMOOTH SAILING...BUT YOU SEEM TO HAVE REACHED THE RELATIVE SAFETY OF CALMER WATERS.

Zoey has some strong emotional issues,,just read all of her postings,,and I understood that she has left the "forum".

I have been curious if she did bring her mom back home,,,or if some other legal means gained guardianship to place her Mother into a good facility.

Whatever is going on in her life,,I wish her the best of things.

Raven---Perhaps you should back track a couple of posts up on this thread and do some reading. Apparently the rumors of Zoey having left the our forum are just that.

Zoey's latest posts here and in Musings sound pretty chipper to me.

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Originally posted by maebee:ZOEY,
I SAW YOU WERE BACK TODAY.

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Originally posted by ZOEY M:
YES DEAREST FRIENDS....I TOOK SOME TIME OFF WHEN MOM WAS OUT OF THE HOSPITAL...

YEs,,I did go back and look,,,so glad that things seem to be going better for Zoey and her Mom,,hope it lasts. I'm sorry about your Dad Zoey,,hope you can get him taken care of too. Peace

NOW THAT IM NOT AFRAID OF THE RESPITE STAY FOR MOM AND ITS WORKS.....YEAH !!!! I'LL HAVE TO DRIVE THE 8HRS (one-way) LIKE IT OR NOT....DAD SEEMS SO LONELY....SAW HIS SISTER.....SHE IS NOT GOING TO LAST TOO LONG....SHE LOOKS LIKE SHE IS IN HER FINAL STAGES OF LIFE....A TRANCE LIKE LOOK IN HER FACE....DADS ISSUES ARE A GREAT CONCERN.....IM CONCERNED FOR BOTH PARENTS, HE HAS FALLEN SEV. TIMES.....I JUST HAVE TO RUN THE RACE TILL THE RACE IS OVER...IM SO TIRED.....I TOLD HIM PUT HIS GUNS AWAY, STOP FLASHING CASH IN FRONT OF STRANGERS......HE'S NOT IN TOUCH WITH REALITY ANYMORE.....I SO WANTED HIM TO CONSIDER MOVING HERE TO MD. HE WANTS NO PART OF IT....MY STRESS WOULD BE A LITTLE BETTER.....HE PAYS 150.00 A MONTH RENT THERE RENTING THAT 1 B/R TINY HOUSE FROM HIS DYING SISTER....HERE IT WOULD BE AROUND 650.00, HE SAID NOOOOOOO WAY......SO THATS THAT...

ZOEY M
CHERUBCT@VERIZON.NET
CAREGIVER TO MOM
PEACE TO ALL !!!!

ZOEY,
IS YOUR DAD IN MD WITH YOU, OR DID HE STAY IN OHIO? IS SOMEONE CARING FOR HIM THERE?

NO MAEBEE....AND THATS WHY I DON'T SLEEP TOO WELL ANYMORE....HE IS IN OHIO....HIS SISTER IS DYING....HAS BEEN IN N/H FOR A YR.....BUT ON FATHERS DAY WEEKEND.....SHE HAD THAT FAR AWAY LOOK....AND NOT RESPONSIVE.....AT ALL.....I SANG FOR HER.....HIS EYE IS ON THE SPARROW, AND I KNOW HE WATCHES ME.....SHE LOOKED INTO MY EYES BUT THEY WERE LIFELESS......I'VE NEVER SEEN THAT LOOK BEFORE....IM GLAD DAD HAS 2 GOOD NEIGHBORS......DAD WAS SUPPOSE TO FOLLOW ME BACK TO MARYLAND......THE DAY AFTER FATHERS DAY HE ZOOMED OFF AND EACH MILE I THOUGHT I WOULD SEE HIM ON THE SIDE WAITING FOR ME, AFTER 200 MILES....THEN THE THOUGHTS TURNED TO.....DID HE DRIVE OVER A CLIFF...? I GET HOME 8hrs LATER, HE IS AT HOME.....AND BLAMED ME FOR NOT FOLLOWING HIM....HUH? ? ? HOW CAN YOU FOLLOW SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T COMMUNICATE. HE IS STILL MAD AT ME.....GUESS A KISS AND MAKE UP LETTER IS IN ORDER......

ZOEY M

HOW IS EVERYONE, ZOEY?

EVERYONE IS KEEPING THERE HEADS ABOVE WATER, I JUST DON'T KNOW WHY MOM WILL EAT OR DRINK [[NOTHING]] WHEN SHE COMES HOME FROM DAYCARE, SO I ASKED THE NURSE TO GIVE HER THE P.M ATIVAN THERE BEFORE SHE LEAVES IN HER SNACK OR SODA, I CAN'T DEAL WITH HER IN THE EVENINGS LIKE THIS, SHE NEEDS TO BE CALM.....OTHERWISE OK.....THX FOR ASKING....ZOEY M

ps: IN FACT THX [[va bch kat]] FOR STARTING THIS THREAD....I APPRECIATE YOUR KINDNESS.....
SHE IS STILL ON NAMENDA, ARICEPT, CELEXA, ABILIFY AND NOW ATIVAN....YIKES....WHAT NEXT? MAYBE A COUPLE OF MARGARITAS WILL DO THE TRICK.
I REALLY DON'T SEE MUCH DIFFERENCE.....EXCEPT FOR THE ATIVAN.....{{{ HUGS }}} TO ALL

HI ZOEY!!

GLAD TO HEAR FROM YOU! I'M SORRY ABOUT YOUR DAD. I HOPE THAT MOM HAS STABILIZED SOMEWHAT SINCE SHE WAS IN THE PSYCH WARD.

DON'T BE A STRANGER - I AND EVERYONE ELSE ON THESE BOARDS CARE ABOUT YOU!!!!!

thx footballmom....your kindness is appreciated. we see the neuro-phyc. today a 4, mom is not complying with the med procedure, so I have to dissolve and put in the coffee-pot after I take a cup.....however Sunday...hubby took a cup.....thankfully he said....IS THE COFFEE OK TO DRINK ??? NO I SAID....so he almost had a cup of coffee with all 5 of moms meds in it....YIKES......scary moment.....

ZOEY M

PS: Im mainly in MUSINGS now, its a peaceful place to go........!

YIKES.....DAD SET OFF FROM OHIO TO DEEP CREEK LAKE, MARYLAND...WHICH IS 1/2 WAY TO BALTO. AREA...IM WORRIED....HE'S 86 AND DRIVES BAD....HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM SINCE FRI......CALLED HIS CELL, NO ANSWER.....THE MOTEL....NO ANS...THEY SAID HE CK'D OUT THIS A.M. HE HESITATES COMING HERE CAUSE MOMS DEMENTIA TAKES A TOLL ON US ALL, BUT [[HE]] DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH IT. THE ATIVAN HELPS KEEP HER CALM.....BUT SO MANY MEDS, IM NOT SURE BUT I JUST MAY KEEP HER ON THE ATIVAN ONLY....SHE KEEPS HOLDING HER RIGHT LEG...I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO...ABOUT DAD, HOPE NO ONE TOOK ADVANTAGE OF HIS LACK OF AWARENESS, HE SCARES ME.....ITS LIKE HAVING 2 LITTLE KIDS.

ZOEY M

ZOEY HAVE YOU TALKED TO YOUR FATHER, IS HE OK