Ten Requests from the Person with Alzheimer's
Posted above my husband's bed( when he was in the final stage):

1. Be patient with me-- Remember I am the helpless victim of an organic brain disease which is out of my control.
2. Talk to me-- Even though I cannot always answer you, I can hear your voice, and sometimes I can comprehend your words.
3. Be kind to me-- for each day of my life is a long and desperate struggle. Your kindness may be the most special and important part of my day.
4. Consider my feeling-- for they are still very much alive within me.
5. Treat me with human dignity and respect--as I would have gladly treated you if you had been the victim lying in this bed.
6. Remember my past--for I was once a healthy vibrant person full of life, love, and laughter, with abilities and intelligence.
7. Remember my present-- I am a fearful person, a loving husband, father, grandfather, uncle, or dear friend who misses my family and home as I knew it very much.
8. Remember my future-- Though it may be bleak to you, I am always filled with hope of the tomorrow.
9. Pray for me--for I am a person who lingers in the mist,that drifts between time and eternity. Your presence may do more for me than any other outreach or compassion you could extend to me.
10. Love me-- and the gift of love you give will be a blessing which will fill both our lives with light forever.

#11..smile and touch my hands.. this..gives me a sense of well being..the power of touch..never under estimate it..and a smile gives me..your energy..from your heart to mine..Love Rosie

WOW!!!
I hope and pray that someone will post all 11 over me when it is my time!!!
Thanks for Sharing!
Lisa

Oh Good one Twice! I am going to output that and post by my phone here. For me and later, for my Mom at the care home. It's a good list because I don't feel guilty when I read it, I just feel lovingly reminded.

TTT

Thank you for this post. I will read it often. My MIL was not a nice person, she had alienated all her friends and most of her family. Now we all have to change our mind sets and take care of someone who caused so much pain and financial trouble for us. It's tough, but knowing what's really going on in her brain helps. Thanks for the reminder.
~~g.