Hi everyone I haven't posted for awhile. I am taking everyday as a gift that my husband is still with me. It is tough to see him decline and I am trying my best to take care of him. I thank all of you for all your help in the past this information has helped me so much. I am feeling down today but don't want to complain, I am trying to tune out family that get me upset and focus on my EODM and keeping my sanity. I was just wondering what happened to all of our request's for the spouse forum. I is so hard for a husband or wife to go through losing our LO and would be great to talk to others. I feel like my life is over and now I am only a caregiver which I would never change the caregiving I love him so much, but I am so sad.

Thank you again to all of you and take care of yourselves.

Your life is not over by any means, Babs. Remember, life is full of ups and downs. And mostly ups. I was care-giver to my dear Jeanne for 13 years. We were married for 38 years. She died in January 2007. I grieved. But life goes on. I'm in love. I'm a world traveler. I have an Italian girlfriend. I'm happy as a lark. I learned to take life one day at a time. In my role as care-giver. And as a lover of life. There's a price to pay for love. Some real down moments. But the reward is 1,000-fold. I have no regrets. --Jim

Dear Babs,
I am so sorry you are feeling so down. I can only imagine how this must affect a spouse/life mate/SO.

I have not heard any more, on a new forum for spouses. I do know that many recommend thealzheimeropsuse.com. I have visited, but not posted, as I am not an affected spouse.

Perhaps a renewed effort, to ask the Adm. would help. I will try to help by asking again.
onlinecom@alz.org

Please, do not look to someone else's life, as how yours should be. We are all unique. You deserve to have compassion for yourself, as that is what motivates us to improve things. You are entitled to feel down. You are reaching out. I only hope most of us can give you a hand up.

Do you know if there is a support group near you?

Babs, definitely do check out:

http://www.TheAlzheimerSpouse.com

(the link above to this site in another post is misspelled).

Thank you, Grassflower. I really massacred that!

maebee I am so happy to find another poster who can't spell.

LOL Actually meeko, I can usually spell very well, but in typing, I frequently mix up my letters. All the letters are there, just not in the right order.

Babs, Welcome back to our caregiver message board. There are many spouses of LO here, including myself. This site has been wonderful for me. We, caregivers/spouses have profound changes in our lives that others can only imagine.

You are in the right place. You may also notice at the top of this message board there is a chat room index. The chat room is open each evening and number of caregiver chat live on a frequent basis. It helps when you are home and feel like there is no one 'out there'

Hope you come back.