Hi, everyone. I am brand new here. My husband and I and our teenage daughters have been caregivers for his grandmother for several years. She has lived with us for 11 years, and we have been dealing with Alzheimer's for the past 3.

She has had 2 strokes in the past 2 weeks, and today will be going to rehab and then will be transitioning into a memory care unit.

I guess I'm just reaching out here because I am so sad that I am having difficulty functioning. She has been my very best friend and a second mom to my kids. I feel horrible that we are not able to care for her anymore, but she needs 24/7 now and we just can't provide that.

Can anyone give me any encouragement? A word to hang onto?

Thanks.

Pink,
First of all, welcome to the boards, so sorry for the reason you came, but so glad you found us. A place to rant and rave, cry, laugh, get hugs, and most important, one of the nicest group of people I have had the pleasure of meeting!!
It is never easy to place a LO, even if it for all the right reasons. It sounds like you have made the right decision. Remeber to visit as much as possible, foir yourself as much as for GM.

Awww Pinkjen,,,,HUGE HUGS from me to you. How very sad about "Grama". I know this is just a transistion that has to be made,,but understand,,even though she isn't living in the house with you and the family anymore,,you can visit with her often.

You are now entering a new phase in " The Book of Life",,,and your'e going from 24/7 caregiver to 24/7 caregiver advocate. You are still going to have alot of responsibility in over seeing that Grama gets the best care she deserves,,is kept clean and dry,,comfortable,,and so happy to know that you are with her to be sure that all is well.

I certainly do understand your sadness,,but in time,,( and thats the magic word here!),,you will adjust and adapt,,,and so will Grama.

I hope you come here again to post. Take care of you,,your family,and Grama. Peace & Blessings to you all.

Awww Pink, it must be so hard, after having her in your home for 11 years. As Raven says though, in time, everyone will adjust. Keep coming. Tell us about how she's doing, and about how you're dealing with your new role as caregiver-advocate. We're here for you!!!
*hugs*

Thank you, everyone. I know that this is going to take time. I appreciate your encouraging words.