I can't believe my mom is coming back to live at our house,but we are out of options.She's been living at a memory care facility since last November and now the funds are gone and she can no longer afford it.My sister has been paying the bulk of it,with my husband and I helping with medication and other things she needs.I knew she could only stay about a year but I can't believe how fast the time went.It was so much easier to go visit her daily and be able to come home and relax(except for the guilt).My problem is our bedrooms are upstairs and she always managed to figure out how to open the gates we've put up.Sometimes she would get up in the middle of the night and I'd hear her messing with the gate.Makes for such a peaceful nights sleep!Is there a better solution so she doesn't go down the stairs alone.She is 96 years old and I'm very afraid of her falling.
Thank you and pray for me.

Have you looked into medicaid? You may also want to call the county commision on aging, or even you elected representatives office to see what help you can find.

Jean
There have been a lot of posts about stairs and keeping LOs from using them lately. I can't find them, but they're here somewhere.

I hope all goes well with your Mom moving in with you

Any chance you could convert a downstairs room into a bedroom?

Also might be worth considering a part-time attendant - maybe for overnight, so someone can monitor your mother if she's awake and tries to use the stairs.

Hope this helps.


Best,
Alan

You know you can check into some good nursing homes that have a "special AD unit,,with staff that is specifically trained to care for the person with AD....Also,,all NH's have a social worker on staff,,who can do the paper work with you to get medicade started,,and if there's a bed available,,then your Mom could move in right away,,and when the medicade kicks in,,its all paid for by medicade,,including her prescriptions.

I don't see how an elderly person your Mom's age,,can make it up and down those stairs in your house!! How about if she were to stay at your sisters home,,if its one level.

I wish you the best of a sad situation. Peace

Thanks for your replies.Mom is not bad physically and the nursing home environment seems more like a hospital rather than a home.She still likes to go in her room and read or just sleep.Also she would hate sharing a room.
My sister lives in Texas and we were taking turns until last year and it was too much for her and also for mom to make the trip.
I live in a townhouse and I only have a living room,kitchen and half bath on the main floor.Not really anywhere to set up an extra room.
I wonder if I could put a lock on the gate.I did look at the site with the security gates and I will be checking those out.I was hoping to make something work with the gate I already have.
Mom can't go up or down the stairs herself.I have a banister on each side and help her up and down.
Thanks again for all your help.

Not picturing your house, a bed downstairs still seems like the best idea. There's another recent thread on this forum about gating off the kitchen to prevent accidents and messes. You could turn an upstairs bedroom into a private sitting room / den .

My partner and I live in a one-room cabin that has a sleeping loft, but in recent years one of us has often been too sick or injured to climb the ladder to sleep in the loft. So we have a futon, usually left open as a double bed. Our friends are used to a double bed in the "living room" and tho it was embarrassing at first, I've gotten used to it too. It's just that "studio apartment" look. Sometimes practical comfort has to trump decorating.

The only problem is when my husband gets home from work at 2:30 in the morning it would wake her up.Even if he got back on days she'd be up at 5:00 when he'd be getting ready for work-making coffee etc...I don't care how it looks because it would be temporary but it's just not practical with him working.Thanks for your input.I am open to any ideas!