to put mom in a nursing home see previous posts. I'm also depressed and take meds for that. The feces accidents have not happened to me yet only to the caregiver,, but its only a matter of time till i'm faced with them...still need encouragement about placing mom.
thanks bela

Bela, be sure to go back to your posts and read people's responses.

As I am sure other folks here are going to tell you, placing a LO is never easy, you will feel guilty about it, and it is sometimes necessary. It is, however, a very personal decision, and one that cannot be made by anyone but yourself and your family. Weigh the options, the pros and cons, and then decide what to do.

If you need help getting started, then come back. We can't, though, encourage you to place your mother. It's too personal a decision for strangers, even well meaning ones, to make.

I wish you strength.

Exhaustion - as your title emplies, is enough to get you thinking through the process. Be realistic with yourself, your abilities, your limits. Then be realistic about how to get the best care for Mom. It's a balancing act which requires constant adjustment to manage. If you're fair about this, it will help with the guilt. Acceptance of your decision and Mom's condition are really the only things I've found that ease the guilt. As Lammie suggests, it's a personal decision based on many, many factors. One size doesn't fit all but in the end it's you that will have to live with the decision as well as your Mom. Trust yourself enough to make the best one for you both.
You can do this - we're here for you whatever you might decide.