I`M 37YEARS OLD TAKE CARE OF MY GRANDMOTHER ALONE AT HOME. MY MOTHER PAST AWAY TWO YEARS AGO WE DID IT TOGETHER BUT NOW ITS ONLY ME AND MY 20YEAR SON .DON`T WANT TO PUT HER IN A HOME.I JUST DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO.HELP!

Hi God's Grace,
Welcome to this forum.... how sad that you find yourself in the midst of this turmoil, but you have found a place that is fullof people who understand.

Of cousrse, there is no way we can offer advice without more information but I CAN tell you this:
1-I have found that there are ways to cope without having to place our loved one. There is a LOT of specific advice here. Ask for help. we will be happy to provide good, specific advice.

2- PLACING them is not your only option, should you decide you need help. There is respite care, there is daycare, there are visiting nurses etc.

3-Should the day come when you decide to place her, it is not the end of the world. Not for you, and not for her. I have survived it as have many people here.

DFinally let me say: YOU ARE NOT ALONE. We are living through the caregiver issues you are dealing with- wandering, poop on the floor, not sleeping at night, anxiety, wanting to go home, sundowning...you name it, someone here has lived through, lived to tell about it and has advice and support for you.

I think it was God's grace that brought you here...you are so welcome.

Your grandma

Welcome God's Grace,
You are not alone. It's true. We find ourselves in situations that seem so hard and yet we find the way through somehow. Please tell us more. I never thought I would be able to take of care of my mother..she hasn't been so nice but I am going to do it very soon. You will find what is best for you....so many people here will help. I promise you that much. Blessings new friend. oxoKaterin

Welcome,welcome,welcome! You may try calling your local senior resource center,,and your local hospital about having someone come over to stay with your Grandmother for a few hours,,a couple of times a week,so you can get a well deserved break!! There's so many helpful people here on the board that are more than willing to care and share with you. When I was feeling so overwhelmed with caring for my Mother,,and I hadn't had a break in over 2 years,,,one day I stopped in at the senior center,,and upstairs was the senior resource center,,,I went up,asked to speak with someone,,explained my dillema,,and within 2 weeks I had an aide come to the house 2'xs a week for 3 hours each time...

Oh,,,It was wonderful! And the best thing about it was that it only cost around $3 an hour,,Mom's insurance paid the rest!!

So please,,for your own healths sake,,,make some down time for just you!! Grandma will be fine,and you'll be able to go off for awhile and feel happy knowing that Grandma is being cared for by someone who has experience. Peace and blessings to you.