mom is still trying to adjust to the NH..she actually tried to leave the other day..but was stopped by nurses..i was scared because i was afraid she'd get hurt..she has good and bad days and i know it will become worse..i just treasure each minute with her.. thanks to everyone at this site..everyone is so nice and understanding..til next time..take care

its constant adjustment friend..i am glad your mom was not hurt and didn't get out. My dad is an exit seeker also so he is in a locked memory unit...have to keep them safe.

Take Care!

I so remember the treasuring moments and wish I could have them back again. Mom has stopped eating again (this will be the 2nd episode). The facility says we have to make some heavy decisions on whether to hydrate her or not. Are they for real? I would hydrate an ant if I thought it needed it!!

Because I live 1,200 miles away, I can't go there every day and make sure she is getting what she needs. My sisters are up there but they say they can't even get her to eat or drink. Do Alz Pt's. just give up???? Just the other day, she had a clarity moment when it came to us kids. So it is sooo hard to believe that she might be giving up.....or maybe it is just forgetting that she is hungry or thirsty. Its a Catch 22.....they are trying to give her Megaize (sp) to increase appetite but she needs to eat something to get it....hence the problem. When she does take something...she just hold it in her mouth...won't chew or swallow. Thanks for listening....and cherish the moments!

Dawson#1---Although I’ve not yet shared the experience of worrying about a loved one adjusting to a facility, I can imagine your concern. Try to remind yourself that for many our loved ones desire to go home is part of the Alzheimer process and not connected with placement.
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One of Five---Your sadness was so evident that I not only listened...but...took some time to cherish of some recent happy moments spent with my Charlie.

From what I’ve heard opting not to hydrate is not the same as allowing someone to die of thirst. Hydrating or not hydrating is a hard choice....Especially if there an advance directive in place. Charlie and I executed them years ago...We both opted against hydration and feeding tubes . Below is a link to a PBF file to a pamphlet called “Hard Choices for Loving People”. Maybe it will help you.

http://www.hardchoices.com/

About individuals with A/D giving up... I’ve read that their brain shuts down to the point where their bodies give out. Personally, I prefer to think of them as just getting tired

Edit From: Hydrating or not hydrating is a hard choice....Especially if there an advance directive in place.

Edit To: Hydrating or not hydrating is a hard choice....Especially if there not an advance directive in place.

Hydrating or not hydrating is a hard choice....Especially if there no advance directive in place.