How do you face the deamon that is this disease ? My Dad is only 68 and I have to put him in a home tomorrow. I feel terrible as a daughter.

Stacey:

Do Not feel you are a terrible daughter. You are doing what is best for your dad. Just hold on to that thought as you go through this terrible time. Gentle hugs sent your way.

Thanks for the kind words. It is just so hard because he is so young. He has also become so combative. He has hurt my Mom so many times and I know she is no longer safe with him home.
I begged his primary MD to put a mood stabilizer on board but he ignored all my requests. Now since he was put in a crisis center for his behavior (Emergency Protective Custody) the Psyc doc put the Depakote ER on board and he is so much better with his anger.

Stacey,

You are not a terrible daughter. Seems to me that you are a very caring and loving daughter. That is why it hurts so bad.

Sending you a very big, tight hug your way.

Theresa

Stacey:

This disease is so hard to deal with. For your mother's safety you have made the only decision that will work. The violence is a real issue with AL and a constance fear of those dealing with the disease. Just remember that your Dad would not do this or act this way if not for the disease. Please take care & come to the chat room in the evenings if you can. We meet in there at 8:30 Eastern Time. There are so many caring people on this web-site just know you are not alone. Hugs

I want to THANK all of you that respond with your words of encouragement. It is nice to know that there are people out there that really care, even though they are strangers by face but new friends by choice.
This was a very difficult day for my Mom and me. To leave my Dad in someone elses care and drive away.

Hi Stacey,
I just put my dad in a ALF 2 weeks ago. He hates it, he's mad at me for doing it and has packed up everything and piled it by his door waiting for one of us to take him home. I love my dad more than anything but I know he's being well taken care of and his safety is my first concern. You have made the right decision. You'll question yourself 1000 times but in the end, you'll understand that what you've done is best for the whole family and I'm sure that's what he would want you to do if he wasn't suffering from this hellish disease.
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You learn unconditional love. That's the best kind of love. --Jim